love the one you’re with

I was reading MckMama’s blog today and honestly, I could have written her post myself. I’ve put a lot of thought into the subject of marriage lately, and although I’m obviously not an authority on this subject, I have been married for 8.5 years. That’s got to count for something!

Anyway, having grown up in a culture where divorce is basically unheard of, it’s been really hard watching 2 of our best friends fighting it out and eventually separated. They have 2 small kids and things don’t seem to be working out the best for them. We pray and plead and cry, because we love them and we know they were happy once - and can be again. And other friends have dealt with affairs and infidelities and the life-long consequences brought on by their choices. So much heartache!

Love the One You’re With. For us, divorce is not an option. In fact, the word ‘divorce’ is not an option. Once those vows are said, you have pledged your life, your love, your allegiance to one person, as long as you both live. Life is not easy. In fact it can be hard. But moving on to another partner has never fixed anything… and I don’t just mean physically. Letting your mind go where it should not go, wondering how it would’ve been with someone else? Believe me, it can make life a miserable place to be. Loving you partner means more than just ‘sticking it out’. Marriage is a calling… together we face the forces that threaten and together we are victorious!!

I don’t think we’ll ever be done learning or trying to improve our marriages. It takes work and patience and a huge dose of unconditional love. And when I look at what Tech Guy and I have been through together, I am so thankful to God for who he picked for me. It’s a perfect fit, an incredible match. And I’m truly learning what it means to love the one I’m with.